Resource
Session 1 - Community Temperature Reading
- Notes:
- It is impossible to be spiritually mature without being emotionally mature.
- love is the measure of maturity (1 Cor. 13)
- We are emotional beings so we cannot neglect that aspect of who we are.
- This will not come naturally.
- Ability to connect incarnationally is decreasing.
- This course is about learning to obey Jesus’ second greatest commandment to love our neighbor. Don’t do this without the Holy Spirit’s empowerment. Deepening your relationship with Jesus is the core of this course.
- Pre-session reading and inventory - p. 16-23
- Bible Study p. 25-26
- Purpose of the CTR: to discover and express your God-given voice and to build healthy relationships with others.
- Small group sharing p. 31-32 (10)
Session 2 - Ladder of Integrity
- Intro
- Healthy differentiation
- not fusion
- not cutoff
- p. 112 - Bowen’s scale of differentiation - after the introduction have people read over this at their table and discuss where they see themselves on this scale. (10)
- The Ladder of Integrity - p. 116-117 (10)
- Examples:
- Someone says something on the way out of church that was a little off color
- A close friend only reaches out when they need something, never to just hang out and that bothers you.
- Someone says something in your circle that offended you, but it was in the large group.
- You reached out to someone to talk and they didn’t get back to you or they were unable to help.
- I’ve invited someone to get coffee and they keep canceling.
- Your parents don’t seem to respect the decisions that you have made as an adult and make little comments that you find offensive.
- You’re the parent of adult children and they aren’t making decisions that align with the way you raised them and you don’t know if you should talk to them or not.
- This tool is meant to help you discover your values and learn how to communicate those values with others. Be respectful but still live with integrity. Integrity and living in the tension with people who have different values.
- This is not a conflict resolution skill
- We often say nothing and bury our values in the interest of being nice. Or we explode and unnecessarily cut people off from our lives or offend them.
- We need to learn to integrate our inner values with the way we live. fear and anxiety can stem from living in fear of expressing ourselves.
- Go through the questions in the ladder.
- After going through the questions you may need to talk to the person or you may not. Remember the purpose of this is to help you get clarity on your values.
- Do the individual activity on p. 118
- Answer the questions in the Small Group Sharing section.